There are a few things I have found important to write down from living alone in a strange city. I don’t know if anyone else will benefit from it, but if they do, I’ll be the happiest person on the planet.
Living alone, here, constitutes looking after your own physical wellbeing, as well as emotional dependence. The first and most important lesson I learnt was:
1. You cannot trust everyone that you meet.
It is a very basic rule, but very easy to forget. You simply cannot trust a person without knowing them completely. And to know a person you need TIME.
Living alone makes you realise the need for a confidante, for friendship, and that requires trust.
2. You learn to live with yourself.
If there is one person whose thoughts and feelings you can always read, it’s you! Even in your off days you learn to pick yourself up and keep moving, ’cause there ain’t no one here to wipe your tears.
3. Everyone lets you down.
This is a bit hard to digest, but eventually you realise that everyone is busy living their own lives. If you’ve ever let yourself down, you begin to understand that relying on other people is not an option.
4. You learn to make friends.
This is one of the brightest things of your day. These are the people who lend you support to be yourself, who’re okay with the kind of person you are. And sometimes, that is the best thing in the world.
5. You amaze yourself at the person you are becoming.
Let’s be honest, everyone has their flaws. We’ve all flinched at our own stupidity, we’ve felt shame for our misdoings, and we’ve learnt to forgive ourselves, no matter what. The one rule in the book is: keep moving. When you keep moving in life, you’ll see and live your life from so many angles and with so many different attitudes that eventually you’ll find the one that suits you best.